Was listening to Fox News this morning, not something I do every day-but on XM caught the host who was taking calls from listeners about the latest, (God I hate even having to say that), mass stabbing/shooting by 22 yr old Elliot Rodgers.
The show asked callers to discuss what they thought was the issue-gun control, mental health or misogyny. Interestingly enough, God, like normal was completely left out of the conversation. But hey, why start now? We are getting used to him being left out of a lot of things.
Let me start by saying this-before I get on my to my ranting and raving, I am a Christian, albeit not a perfect one, but I do believe in Jesus Christ who is the son of God who died for our sins. I have been ridiculed for this, laughed at-but honestly I have never known such a religion that is attacked when so many others exist. I don’t “bible beat” I’m not a perfect person, I cuss, spit and sometimes am a little self-indulged. I have done all sorts of things in this life I’m not proud of. I don’t have all the answers, I don’t believe that some people will automatically go to hell, it is necessarily some place “down there” and there is some devil waiting in horns. I have lots of questions about my own faith, but that is between me and God, so in this discussion what is to follow, I wanted to make that disclaimer here.
To me, God is love and more than a discussion on gun control, mental health or misogyny that is exactally what people like Elliot Rodgers needed. We all need it. Some may pose the argument-would having God in his life simply prevented what he did? I say yeah, maybe it would have. It may not have cured his mental illness or prevented him from getting a gun, but it sure as hell may have gave him some faith to cling to-some belief that things in years may have gotten better for him. Or perhaps he would have been more open to learning about his shortcomings in his own character and interactions with others in the face of his mental illness which affected his sociability. Having God in his life, he may not have decided to become his own “God” as he professed to become by killing others. But we all sort of do this when God is out of the picture, the self-worship thing, even if we don’t realize it-the attitude that we are the only one’s in control of our own destiny and the complete self-reliance we believe about ourselves.
Which leads me to the entitlement thing. First off, it was obvious to me this wasn’t in the same sense we have been hearing of the word in the media. In this case, the entitlement and arrogance in the videos are symptoms of Narcissism Personality Disorder-and thankfully, a clinical psychologist just confirmed my suspicions on HLN a moment ago. But there are other signs there-I have seen it before, in someone I have known, and I was trying to put my finger on it-then it dawned on me, the eye shifting, while searching for words, the psychotic laughter… were confirmed too-schizophrenia. It certainly doesn’t make it anymore comforting though, to know as a woman by any man that we are so desired as like an object to be had. This insane sexual attraction, (although he also appeared very lonely in many other ways), is something I just don’t get, wont get, unless I think I have a penis. How creepy this video just DEMANDS companionship and sex from females. It is very obvious to me that aside from NPD, he shares an attitude a lot of “normal” men have. His attitude of entitlement was extremely misogynic in the fact that somehow if he acts the part and drives the car, women should show up like drones…not only that but were his values were, whether that was from what he had been taught or what he had observed about the world around him and learned. Somehow, it seems that if he would obtain popularity and get lucky or have been shown some affection from girls, that would be enough to edify him, to make him a complete person. But what even disgusted me more, is another male who posted a video culmination of this young man stating he would have to “fight them off” if he drove a car like that. These sort of attitudes just proliferate the conception of women in the mainstream as money-grubbing hoes and nagging bitches. Some superficial women may indeed respond to a man solely based on his material possessions, but that linear statement across the board is bullshit. How often are women portrayed as they are? The one’s who bust their asses, take care of the house, work, take care of animals, children, cook, clean and deal with ex’s, baby mama drama and support and love their man. Instead we get DEMANDS FOR SEX AND AFFECTION and commercials like the one Dish network put out with the wife as annoying, ditsy marionette made of wires-a bona-fide moron- a RIDICULOUS PORTRAIL OF WOMEN-ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTS ME!!!!!!!!
I could go on, but some final thoughts…my first and foremost thoughts were actually not misogyny at all-gun control even less, (although I am not quite finished on that), they were all towards mental health. This is what I would do to fix these problems going forward-and it’s so simple…(even Dr. Drew agreed and tonight was the first time I ever even watched Dr. Drew). If we know that someone is getting care, allow the mental heath professional to use their judgment to have them incarcerated! Why do we have to disclose this to someone at all?! Isn’t it common sense that if a person start telling someone, anyone that they were seriously thinking of killing others or ourselves that someone could use common sense to see if we suffer from a diagnosis such as paranoid schizophrenia and a psychotic episode was about to happen? Wouldn’t most health professionals do this anyway? The answers are right there but all we get in the news is “until someone gets serious about mental health…” Where the hell are the ideas for solutions? Forget the discussions. I am done with talking about stuff-use your grey matter and get to work. We aren’t going to go back to the old days and shock people to death or perform lobotomies. Other clinical opinions can be made in through a short term mental health evaluation. Dr. Drew suggested, a doctors note for instance, to enter a higher university could be a start. We could take this a step further and add family centered therapy-and if that didn’t work, (privacy rights often prevent family members from knowing what’s going on even if they are willing to get involved), then just leave it up to the doctor to have an executive order to restrict a person from obtaining a gun. The big point to remember here though is knives were used, as well as guns. If they can’t get a gun, they will get a knife, if they can’t get a knife, they will get a hatchet-if a person wants to commit murder, they will find a way to do it. Rat poisoning is available in hardware stores-should we ban people from entering Lowes and Home Depot? Other than the concealed weapon that this final act of violence has convinced me to get, lets use our heads in regards to warning signs of those with mental illnesses, privacy laws, and background checks of those who should be allowed the same access to guns. And furthermore, before we start talking about misogyny on a widespread basis based on this case, can we address a fucking commercial first? There, I said it.