Dive into “Milky Chance” For RRRR-EEEE-AAAA-LLLL

Holy Milky Chance,

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I want to devour Clemens Rehbein. And ladies, if you’ve listened to this delightfully surprising duo you know its not just those big brown eyes, perfect skin and fluffy hair drawing you in, its that voice too. A surprising mix of style and vocals that are slightly Chris Cornell mets G love and Special Sauce meets Ray LaMontagne…with deep electronic mixes reminiscent to? God, I don’t know what to compare the unexpected drop of beats that Phillips Dausch’s mixes in to songs like “Running.”

These guys have an incredibly unique sound with a mesh of genre’s you would never dreamed of making any sense. I discovered them on a whim to look up that voice one night after hearing “Stolen Dance.” The playfulness this duo puts off leaves a taste of Indie in your mouth, but wouldn’t seem fair to label a band that sems beyond labeling. Creative genius like this doesn’t come often. Tune in.

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Selfies Aren’t So Bad After All

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A morning selfie

You know, I have a problem with the media calling us conceited, narcissistic, self-promoting and approval seeking from all of the “selfies” we take.  I disagree…here are a few reasons…

1. I enjoy other people’s selfies. On Instagram I follow a variety of people. Some of them dabble in modeling. They are in the business of being photo ready. Some of them are absolutely gorgeous creatures-male or female, like a rose, I enjoy looking at beautiful things-beautiful faces are one of them.

2. Selfies are a celebration of life-how many times have you taken a selfie when no one else is around? If you are like me, sometimes no one is there to capture you in a special moment or no one thinks to. I think my mom was my last great photographer. After about age 10, my record of pictures dwindled down significantly. Maybe you are in the moment of something you have wanted to do all of your life. Would it make sense to just let it slip away? Life is short, it’s our journey-most of us want to be able to remember it.. One day, if you are lucky enough you can look back at your story. Who wouldn’t enjoy that?

3. Selfies boost self-esteem. We all enjoy being caught at a good angle. You know what I mean, from the good side. Even Marilyn Monroe has a side she preferred to be captured from. How many pictures have you had where you are in a half blink, turkey neck pose that someone takes haphazardly and you wonder if they somehow have a secret plot against you? That one aint going in a frame, I can tell you that.

3. We are writing history-that’s right, history. In our current lifespan we are doing something no other generation before us has had the opportunity to do, leave a well-documented written and more importantly pictorial, (even allegorical if I may go that far), record of our lives. How awesome would it have been to have had generations before us leave such a history behind? I wonder what it would have been like if we could read the thoughts of so many people I admire, what would they have said? How would it compare to social norms today and how things have changed, advanced, or in some was even dis-evolved? There are a lot of things to say in pictures that defy any written word. You can’t re-write history when pictures tell a different story. I wonder 100 years from now, what all of our pictures will say about us?

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Good Morning

Full of lunatic antics….this video is absolutely ridiculous, but I love the beat so enjoy a good laugh, or a good beat, or both.

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Night Owl Magazine…The Beginning-“Up Late, Like You”

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Night Owl by Delun on deviantart.com

For those of you who may be writers or bloggers like myself, have been reading my blog and saw my idea to write about something for real, here we go…  I’ve decided my creation shall be a magazine. Not a book, but a magazine. Why? Because believe it or not, I love them more! I have a short attention span  and unless I’m reading about something I’m really into like true crime or something informational, I hate reading, mostly fictional reading really is what I mean. Give me a book on economics, cool-but Harry Potter, forget it, (sorry fans), I just don’t read fiction! I could care less…so until my manifesto on why the world will end due to a mass cyborg technological meltdown where we all lose touch with our humanity and morph into machines, the world will have to settle for a home décor magazine. I love magazines because they are also still so tangible, paper in your hands, purchased from the simplest of places like a grocery store, and like a little present waiting to be opened. It’s so fun to pick up one up and browse through the frugal ideas for decorating your home, the furniture makeovers, the trends you can find that look high-end for less, I eat that stuff up. But it will be a little bit more than just that…

The Night Owl name came from my special time of the day, night. So I am hoping to also appeal to people like me. I’m most happiest and most creative when I’m alone at night. I ‘m a person who needs a lot of space to thrive and refresh, one who needs her quite time, so being up until 3 am is normal for me. I have time to think, focus, search Pinterest, watch informative videos on Youtube on mental health, read books by Ann Rule, catch up on forensic files, post my crappy cell phone pics to Instagram or read health articles on weight loss-in short, I’m all over the place! Which is great, because at night, you can be. The world feels like it is all yours to be free, away from the day’s worry, and rat race, a time to research, reflect, plan for your next  endeavor, try to understand the world, or a little bit about yourself. I love the stillness of the night, the little night creatures who make soft noises in the coolness of the air. Things fissure and congeal in my head and leave me refreshed before I slip into dreamland and until that glorious first cup of coffee.

Are you a night owl? What do you enjoy doing during those wee hours? Are you a mad painter, a crazy pinterest researcher, or little cleaning elf? What do you do at night, or what is special about your time at night that makes you happy? I would love to hear your thoughts about why night is your magical time…as for the magazine stay tuned it is in the works!

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Antiquing in Tacoma

I love antique stores. Until about a year ago, I was a complete stranger-but now if I want to treat myself to a special day, I’ll grab a large coffee, my shades and try to hit them all before 5-pausing for a fabulous lunch of course ;) While I still have so much more to see, here’s just a glimpse of one in downtown Tacoma on Broadway, (AKA Antique Row). Full of exquisite, intricately hand-carved furniture, a secret library any book lover would dream of, and even an Egyptian Sarcophagus.20140529-225654-82614680.jpg

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“Entitled to Kisses”-Arguments for Answers on UCSB Mass Murders

Was listening to Fox News this morning, not something I do every day-but on XM caught the host who was taking calls from listeners about the latest, (God I hate even having to say that), mass stabbing/shooting by 22 yr old Elliot Rodgers.

The show asked callers to discuss what they thought was the issue-gun control, mental health or misogyny. Interestingly enough, God, like normal was completely left out of the conversation. But hey, why start now? We are getting used to him being left out of a lot of things.

Let me start by saying this-before I get on my to my ranting and raving, I am a Christian, albeit not a perfect one, but I do believe in Jesus Christ who is the son of God who died for our sins. I have been ridiculed for this, laughed at-but honestly I have never known such a religion that is attacked when so many others exist. I don’t “bible beat” I’m not a perfect person, I cuss, spit and sometimes am a little self-indulged. I have done all sorts of things in this life I’m not proud of. I don’t have all the answers, I don’t believe that some people will automatically go to hell, it is necessarily some place “down there” and there is some devil waiting in horns. I have lots of questions about my own faith, but that is between me and God, so in this discussion what is to follow, I wanted to make that disclaimer here.

To me, God is love and more than a discussion on gun control, mental health or misogyny that is exactally what people like Elliot Rodgers needed. We all need it. Some may pose the argument-would having God in his life simply prevented what he did? I say yeah, maybe it would have. It may not have cured his mental illness or prevented him from getting a gun, but it sure as hell may have gave him some faith to cling to-some belief that things in years may have gotten better for him. Or perhaps he would have been more open to learning about his shortcomings in his own character and interactions with others in the face of his mental illness which affected his sociability. Having God in his life, he may not have decided to become his own “God” as he professed to become by killing others. But we all sort of do this when God is out of the picture, the self-worship thing, even if we don’t realize it-the attitude that we are the only one’s in control of our own destiny and the complete self-reliance we believe about ourselves.

Which leads me to the entitlement thing. First off, it was obvious to me this wasn’t in the same sense we have been hearing of the word in the media. In this case, the entitlement and arrogance in the videos are symptoms of Narcissism Personality Disorder-and thankfully, a clinical psychologist just confirmed my suspicions on HLN a moment ago. But there are other signs there-I have seen it before, in someone I have known, and I was trying to put my finger on it-then it dawned on me, the eye shifting, while searching for words, the psychotic laughter… were confirmed too-schizophrenia. It certainly doesn’t make it anymore comforting though, to know as a woman by any man that we are so desired as like an object to be had. This insane sexual attraction, (although he also appeared very lonely in many other ways), is something I just don’t get, wont get, unless I think I have a penis. How creepy this video just DEMANDS companionship and sex from females. It is very obvious to me that aside from NPD, he shares an attitude a lot of “normal” men have. His attitude of entitlement was extremely misogynic in the fact that somehow if he acts the part and drives the car, women should show up like drones…not only that but were his values were, whether that was from what he had been taught or what he had observed about the world around him and learned. Somehow, it seems that if he would obtain popularity and get lucky or have been shown some affection from girls, that would be enough to edify him, to make him a complete person. But what even disgusted me more, is another male who posted a video culmination of this young man stating he would have to “fight them off” if he drove a car like that. These sort of attitudes just proliferate the conception of women in the mainstream as money-grubbing hoes and nagging bitches. Some superficial women may indeed respond to a man solely based on his material possessions, but that linear statement across the board is bullshit. How often are women portrayed as they are? The one’s who bust their asses, take care of the house, work, take care of animals, children, cook, clean and deal with ex’s, baby mama drama and support and love their man. Instead we get DEMANDS FOR SEX AND AFFECTION and commercials like the one Dish network put out with the wife as annoying, ditsy marionette made of wires-a bona-fide moron- a RIDICULOUS PORTRAIL OF WOMEN-ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTS ME!!!!!!!!

I could go on, but some final thoughts…my first and foremost thoughts were actually not misogyny at all-gun control even less, (although I am not quite finished on that), they were all towards mental health. This is what I would do to fix these problems going forward-and it’s so simple…(even Dr. Drew agreed and tonight was the first time I ever even watched Dr. Drew). If we know that someone is getting care, allow the mental heath professional to use their judgment to have them incarcerated! Why do we have to disclose this to someone at all?! Isn’t it common sense that if a person start telling someone, anyone that they were seriously thinking of killing others or ourselves that someone could use common sense to see if we suffer from a diagnosis such as paranoid schizophrenia and a psychotic episode was about to happen? Wouldn’t most health professionals do this anyway? The answers are right there but all we get in the news is “until someone gets serious about mental health…” Where the hell are the ideas for solutions? Forget the discussions. I am done with talking about stuff-use your grey matter and get to work. We aren’t going to go back to the old days and shock people to death or perform lobotomies. Other clinical opinions can be made in through a short term mental health evaluation. Dr. Drew suggested, a doctors note for instance, to enter a higher university could be a start. We could take this a step further and add family centered therapy-and if that didn’t work, (privacy rights often prevent family members from knowing what’s going on even if they are willing to get involved), then just leave it up to the doctor to have an executive order to restrict a person from obtaining a gun. The big point to remember here though is knives were used, as well as guns. If they can’t get a gun, they will get a knife, if they can’t get a knife, they will get a hatchet-if a person wants to commit murder, they will find a way to do it. Rat poisoning is available in hardware stores-should we ban people from entering Lowes and Home Depot? Other than the concealed weapon that this final act of violence has convinced me to get, lets use our heads in regards to warning signs of those with mental illnesses, privacy laws, and background checks of those who should be allowed the same access to guns. And furthermore, before we start talking about misogyny on a widespread basis based on this case, can we address a fucking commercial first? There, I said it.

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F It, Why Not?

Sitting here at my desk I wonder, what to write next. Its not that I have no subjects to share with the world, I have too many.

My dad and his wife have been sharing with me about a class they are taking that has been transforming their lives, sort of like a life coach thing.
While I don’t see myself prescribing to a class myself, it is always interesting to listen to people like Tony Robbins or Joel Osteen because you always feel better about yourself afterwards. Rarely have I felt worse. Now, if you listen to Joel, that means you are prescribing to Christianity and if that offends you then maybe you should stop reading now, or you can read on and challenge a bit of what I have to say later. So why am I writing about these guys? Because they inspire people to do more-to be more. No matter what it is that you are doing, (and for many this is related to their business ventures), they urge you to go out and do your best, rise above the beliefs of you own potential. Listen to God’s plan he has for you and respond to it.
Which has me thinking about my own life. A lot.

Until recently, I was employed in a good paying job, not a very stable job-but who has been able to say that since about 2003? And I have been looking for work like so many American’s, desperately. So desperately, I am feeling very stuck, frustrated, desperate, enraged…need I go on? After applying for job after job, one door shut after another, one finds themselves looking for work outside of their profession, or living area, looking to obtain further education, or starting their own business. This is not my first time having to consider these things, but in the shape of our economy it just has been getting worse. As they say when you have nothing to lose, you have everything to gain. I have found this to be true of so many talented people I know who were facing extreme consequences and rose above. Some sink, some swim. Who are you? A sinker or a swimmer? I actually hate that phrase because rising above dire consequences doesn’t depend on our abilities at all, it depends on our mindset.

So my dad had shared with me about making a list like they did, about my talents and abilities/things I enjoy. Then the task was, pick the top two you could not live without. Those are the things you need to be doing, or talent you need to be sharing with the world. This wasn’t too hard for me because I already knew the answer. The first was writing. Hands down. It has always been my passion. But I didn’t put too much weight on this list because this isn’t the first time I have done one of these sort of self-finding lists. Sure, we make the list, we have discovered our one of 16 different personality types suited for a profession etc.., etc…but now what? I just go quit my job, (if I could find one), and write a book? With my crazy commute, how could I even fit something more into my schedule? I once asked a successful and happy, Christian friend of mine, a friend who has always sort of been a touch and go mentor of mine, who also has a good paying job, can it really be done? Can a person really afford to match their passion with their profession? And how can it be done? He had managed to do it-but I realized later he worked very hard, took huge risks and was at the end of his rope when he decided to jump. So it can be done, albeit he didn’t give me a direct answer, I found it in the details, that most people are not fortunate enough to be pushed to being only left to their own devices.

In reality, I have been doing what so many others have been doing and my dad and his wife are right. I haven’t decided to follow my passion. I have lacked faith and time management skills. Often times, as they described, you can’t even share your passion with people who are the closest to you. They don’t even believe in themselves, so how in the hell can they believe in you? Besides, people like me don’t write books-right? Well, only if I say so.
Now that doesn’t mean we will all rise to amazing things, but even the humblest of single moms, like my mom, can rise up to amazing things. They can practice good self care, ask for help when they need it, work hard, go to work, stay off drugs, make good choices. I choose to pick her as an example because she has taught me that even someone who feels like they may have nothing to offer to the world in ways of education or talent can inspire people more than they know. Sometimes I think that is what stops good people from staying good. No one there tells them they make a difference.

So now I guess, I am going to write a book. I’ll rephrase that, I will write a book, or I will write and devote my time to writing something for sale and share my abilities and talents with the world. Sometimes I want to write a magazine. Who knows, maybe I will do both. The worst part of writing is I never picked that number two off of the list…my only love is writing. The other stuff, just things I enjoy. So maybe I can just write all about them, or just one, or some of them or, well who cares…just write. F it, why not?

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When Being Mental Isn’t Enough

I haven’t posted about this at all, but I am a huge, huge reader of true crime. In fact, other than fashion and home magazines the only reading other than that is about true crime. After moving to Washington, I had to know who/what the Green River Killings were about, then after reading an amazing book by Ann Rule, moved on to “The Stranger Beside Me,” a very chilling account of Ted Bundy. It’s so chilling, its unbelievable. I am currently in the middle of it and without giving defense to serial killers-I have to ask this question. Is it not enough to be a socio/psychopath? That is, to avoid the death penalty? Law says, one must not know the difference between right and wrong. So many people commit evil acts, trust me-I believe in the death penalty, but what the hell makes someone kill another person? They do know right and wrong, but something separates us from them-something that I think they cannot help. I wouldn’t want to save one of these SOB’s, I just want to do some more reading on the subject. Apparently, if a person is also suffering a delusion, I have read that at times they can be spared the death penalty. But killers of people need to be taken out. You can’t just kill that many people and expect not to go down like an animal. Those are just the rules.

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The Best Little Devil Down There

Had a great convo with my sister today-discussing life and my current predicament of well, just taking care of shit. Shit meaning other people and namely their shit, when I should be able to just take care of my own shit. When you are a woman, wife or mom, you take care of everyone else. This is so true of so many women. This is why we sometimes break down and scream, cry and go crazy-because we do too much for others all the time. In short, my sister thinks some how I will earn points in heaven, I told her “I sure hope so-I hope I go there, cause if I end up in hell, I’ll be the best little devil down there.” Pretty clever little quip huh? I though so. Go me.

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Army Wife, Also Known As Person

You know what gets on my last nerve? Telling people my husband is in the Army. We are people with other interests and no, our whole house is not decorated in flags. To be honest, I don’t mind people saying thanks for his service, but please don’t over do it. I am a military wife because that is my husband’s profession. It does not define us. I am not a girl scout leader. Saying I am a military wife I have learned, is the last way I ever want to introduce myself because somehow everyone has a picture of who I am or who we are. We are people. We are just like you. My husband defends this country, yes. But putting us in a box further hurts military families more because others come up with ideas of how “those families” are. In the media, families are portrayed as flag waving simple folk, standing near parades with mom holding the hands of 3 little children. Now while those do families exist and there is nothing wrong with that-it just paints a fake stereotype of who all military families are and what they are like, and even more so, an out of touch one. Except for our transient lifestyle and exposure to different and unique challenges of being away from each other, we are just like any other family. We come in all different ages and sizes, from young to old, from kids to no kids, from city lovers to country dwellers. We represent all walks of life-just like the one’s my husband spends defending. Now go portray that, media.

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